MalikaSG

MalikaSG or Malika, privately began exploring kink/BDSM at the age of 18. She was introduced to the community in 2007 for a short time, then again in 2019. Malika began her Leather & M/s journeys in 2020.

She is the founder of Black Leather subs/slaves Alliance (BLsA), one of the founding members of LML, A trio of women who understand the transformative powers of sisterhood and support especially in kink and leather spaces, with her sisters Master Leather Redux & Master Lola Smiles, co-Admin for The Dark Lair, a lifestyle support & education group for people of Color, (founded by Sir Guy), Media Director for The Atlantic Leather Family Alliance (ALFA), She is the Queen of the House of the Black Panther, the romantic partner of, and in service to the Head of House, SirGuy.

Since fully engaging in the community in 2020, Malika has organized and participated in several panels and roundtables, delivered keynote & endnote speeches, had her writings featured in various Lifestyle publications, as well as various other accomplishments.

Interview

What service skill have you been meaning to learn or offer that you haven’t yet?

Bootblacking. I have done, and still do, research on it though. I am fortunate enough to have some very skilled Bootblacks as close friends of mine. They passed along resources and tips, etc. But, it ain’t a cheap skill to learn, and I am ballin’ on a budget. So…

What forms of service do you find particularly meaningful to receive?

Domestic, for sure!!! Everything from cleaning to running errands. When I was a kid, my older sister made me clean the house on Saturdays before I could play, and that continued with my Mom up through high school. Cleaning an entire house on my own? I grew to hate all things domestic, except cooking-I enjoy that. So, I am very appreciative when someone not only willingly but happily provides domestic service to me. It can be very exhausting.

Which service-based skill are you most proud of?

Empathy. I am very proud of my Empathetic nature. For a while, I did not really believe that it was special and dismissed it, but I have found that others feel comfortable with me, and they feel that I am trustworthy enough to open up to about good (and not so good) things happening in their lives. It feels affirming when I am told that I have helped them, that they feel less burdened, or I make them laugh through tears. It is a great feeling to know that people see me that way. It is described by my sister, Domina Kat as “Care Bear energy.”

Do you feel you have grown from service?

Yes, for sure. In the beginning, I didn’t consider the things I was doing in the community to be service. I did some stuff but wasn’t seeing the impact it was having; how it was affecting people. Along the way, I slowly started to see, with a few close people’s help, that the services I provide have the capacity to really help others and have value. Now I am embracing the skills that I do have and am ready to help at the drop of a hat. For instance, MsC Worldwide and SOC both ask me to participate every year for the past three years. I say “Yes” before I even finish the email!! However, I don’t say yes to everything offered. We all need to set boundaries and pace ourselves. That said, I am trying to find new ways to serve my loved ones, my organizations, and the community as a whole.

If money and time were no object, what would you love to get formal/professional

training in? When I first saw this question, I thought of two things, Massage Therapy, because conferences make you tired, and being able to provide that service to people during a con would be kind of cool. Then I thought about learning all I could about treating and styling hair for BiPoC Female-identified folk, so if they want something just for fun or for a particular event during a conference, I could do it for them because one thing I dread is having to deal with my hair at a Con. Or I could be just a lifestyle (LBGTQIA+, Kink, M/s, Leather etc.) friendly hair salon.