Interviews

This page contains interviews from our SOC 2023 presenters and panelists. Listen on to learn more from them and the SOC podcast interviewer kit.

Bebe, who was an active member in the Saint Louis community involved with NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom), discusses her extensive background in community service, particularly in organizing events and advocating for consent education and legal protections for alternative lifestyles. She emphasizes the importance of anticipatory service in her personal relationships, detailing her preparations to try to anticipate her partner's needs. Bebe also shares insights into finding fulfillment in service roles and offers advice to newcomers in the BDSM community and to service.
Daddy Zulu discusses his role in the Leather Solidarity Collective, and how it serves the BIPOC community. He mentions challenges in getting ongoing support and discusses the Uprise conference, aimed at education and celebration within the community. He emphasizes the importance of serving others in relationships and in the community, and encourages learning and activism beyond just the kink community.
Daesha discusses community and service, specifically the House of Kush, SAKE (SoCal Asian Kink Events), the appeal of service and insecurities that arise from service, service in dynamics, and sexuality and service.
Dare (formerly Darren) Campbell discusses their views on service, emphasizing its dual nature: broader societal service and intimate, power-exchange service in relationships. Dare talks about service in both spirituality and sexuality, and how service is both for the community and for individual relationships. Dare also discusses navigating insecurities in service and offers advice for newcomers interested in exploring service-oriented dynamics.
DawnSparkles (aka Bubbles) talks about role models in service and growth in service, and what most appeals to Bubbles in service. Bubbles also talks about sexuality and service, insecurities, and successfully incorporating service into relationships and the broader community.
Domina Alluriah discusses her extensive involvement in the LGBTQI+ and kink communities in Mississippi, emphasizing her role as a dominant rather than submissive and talks about the concept of service beyond submissive roles. She also discusses TNG and service, service headspaces, sexuality and service, and advice for newcomers to service.
InquisitiveElle talks about his thoughts on service: what aspects of service are most appealing, insecurities in service, how he sees service in relation to the broader leather/kink/fetish community, recommendations for a total service newbie, and service goals.
JustRob discusses service in the BDSM community and lifestyle. He covers misconceptions about service, different ways to serve, understanding a service heart, service in BDSM dynamics, insecurity and entitlement in service, and the meanings of service for personal growth, online advocacy, and education for marginalized communities.
Lady Catherine discusses her extensive involvement in the kink and leather communities, including organizing events and serving various organizations. Lady Catherine emphasizes the importance of service as aligned with her core values of productivity and community contribution, highlighting its potential for fostering relationships, happiness, and personal fulfillment while cautioning against the darker aspects of service driven by insecurity. She advocates for embracing mistakes and learning from them as part of a healthy approach to service, encouraging newcomers to apply their existing skills to serve effectively in diverse contexts.
Malika talks about her roles in the leather and service community, like being part of the Leather Solidarity Collective and the Atlantic Leather Family Alliance (ALFA). She talks about the Uprise conference and shares how her views on service have changed over time. Malika talks about insecurity in service, and she stresses the importance of good communication and gives advice to newbies who want to start doing service in their relationships.
Master Kaddan goes over her history in kink, bdsm, and service. Master Kaddan then talks about the Leather Solidarity Collective and her involvement with the kink community. She relates some stories about insecurity in service, different role modes, and growth from service. She also discusses what a leather service household is like.
Sir Tee and little kitsune discuss transactional disconnected service, out-of-the-box service, the difference between chores and service, mindfulness and a service headspace. They share some advice for engaging in service, personal examples of how service has enriched their dynamics and lives, and the broader applications of service beyond personal relationships.
Master Penguin and ginna reflect on their involvement in the kink and BDSM community. They talk about topics such as their history of service, their involvement in various roles including international title holders, and their views on inclusivity and community support. They also discuss the intersections of sexuality and service, sharing personal stories and insecurities in service, and some advice for service newbies.
Shalimar discusses their role as a bootblack in the Sacramento leather community, emphasizing how bootblacking serves both physically and emotionally. Shalimar also shares their goals of expanding their educational influence within the kink community, promoting social justice and equitable representation.
j talks about growing up doing service in the community, her unique long-haul trucking dynamic, similarities and differences in the kink community throughout the USA, role models and service goals, some funny moments in service, and advice for newbies to service.